Moving On

It’s a concept that some of us may find difficult. It’s even harder when you’re trying to move on from someone. You invested time in developing that relationship/friendship and sometimes you both grow out of it or you realize it’s healthier for both of you to be out of each other’s lives or it could be something worse like a fight or a misunderstanding. In all of the above, they lead to a heartbreak. Rather it’s a small one or a severe one, it is, at the end of the day, a heartbreak.

Depending on how things ended, moving on is difficult and I think it’s because we will always have a little bit of hope that things may turn around but in reality it’s unhealthy to live that way.

From my own experience, I didn’t push myself to move on fast. I let myself feel the pain and the heartbreak of that friendship and I had moments of wondering why and how and can we be friends again. And that person had such a strong hold of the younger version of myself that it took me a while to forget about them and not care about them anymore. That’s when I felt a sense of release. They weren’t in my thoughts as much and everyday they become less and less in my head until they finally vanished and became a memory.

My point is, moving on involves going through a process of asking yourself questions you can’t answer, feeling guilt of what might you have done to change the outcome, maybe even anger, but the last bit is forgiving yourself and have acceptance of that relationship that you had with that person. The acknowledgment that you have shared a part of yourself and at some point they’ve made you happy. That’s when you finally feel like they can disappear from your thoughts but again, it will take time. Don’t rush it, just let take it’s course.

I will end this with a quote I’ve read regarding to moving on by Tyler Perry,

The most important thing that I learned in growing up is that forgiveness is something that, when you do it, you free yourself to move on.

Much Love,

SHxoxo